Hiatus

So, I decided to go on a month long hiatus from Facebook, Twitter, texting and emailing for non-business reasons and I have a lot of supporters. That makes me feel good, but at the same time, I have people not respecting my wishes. Why is there always a few people who choose to not support you? Answer...haters come in droves. Not everyone wants to see you succeed or do something positive in your life. As sad as it may seem, it's very true.

Just today, I was talking with my sister about friendship and she said she hopes my friends realize how great of a friend I am; when I told her I hope so too, but I actually think she's one of the main ones who actually KNOW what a great friend I am. She said that's a sad truth, but I may be right. I told her I know I'm right, simply because of the shit I've been through. Not everyone wants to support you because some people are self-centered and as usual, misery loves company....

Take this past weekend for instance...My birthday was Saturday and a lot of people remembered and told me happy birthday, but there are those who knew and remembered, but chose not to say a word. Why? Because misery loves company. They saw so many people telling me happy birthday via Facebook and felt the need to say nothing. I won't lose any sleep over it. I still turned 37 and will turn 38 in another 361 days without them, so I just smile and keep on moving.

With that said, I just want to say thank you to all those who support me and all of my decisions, whether you agree with them or not. A hiatus is good to do, to spend time with yourself, so if you've never considered it, I think you should. I love not being obligated to anyone or anything and just going with the flow and saying yes to things I really want to say yes to.

I'm just saying.

More Splinters

Okay...So most of you who have been reading my blog know that I have posted a few that were titled Pet Peeves and then I changed the name to Splinters because I wanted to be different, plus splinters better describes how these things can be. They get under your skin just enough to irritate you like splinters.

My newest splinter is people who only respond to one question in an email, text, tweet, etc. For example, let's say I send an email to a friend of mine and ask these questions: How are you? How's the family? I haven't seen you in a while, how's the new job coming? I heard you had a baby, how old is he/she now? and their response is "He's 2 years old. How are you doing?"

WTF?? Did you NOT see my other questions? Did I just waste my time typing for my health? People, you need to answer ALL questions because trust me, if it irritates me, it irritates someone else.

Get it together people and READ every single question and RESPOND to every single question. Geesh!

Are You Gonna Go My Way?

Watch this video for a good laugh!

Haters

hate [heyt]

verb, hat-ed, hat-ing, noun

-verb (used with object)

1. to dislike intensely or passionately; feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward; detest: to hate the enemy; to hate bigotry.

Do we shake the haters off or entertain them by showing our envy towards them?

Do you show hatred towards someone you consider a friend just because that person has done something you have long awaited to do? Or do you congratulate them on their accomplishment because you are genuinely happy for them?  We all have a jealous side and that's normal, but allowing it to show is when the problem occurs. Let's all try a little harder to keep that jealousy buried within and keep smiling! 

I have a friend who is always smiling. She is always happy and I don't think I have ever seen her not smiling. Recently I was looking for an angry photo of her for a project I was working on and I honestly could not find one. I told her every single photo I have of her, whether it's a shot she posed for or a candid one where she was caught off guard, she is smiling. Those are the people we should have surrounding us daily....happy and positive people. Hatred is very negative and we should try hard to avoid negative situations and negative people. If you have someone in your life who is always complaining about something and always seems to have negative things to say about something or someone, turn that negative energy around by offering them something positive as a response. I guarantee they will either begin to agree with you and turn their attitude around or they will leave you alone because they see no matter what they say, you will not join them in their negativity. You know what they say...misery loves company. I don't know about you, but I'd rather have the company of the happy people around me daily. Life is too short to go around mad, complaining and hating on people on a regular basis.

I'm just saying.

Simply Saying Thank You

Okay people, I posted a blog a while back about simple acts of gratitude and unfortunately not very many people took it seriously. When are we going to learn to simply say "thank you" to people for whatever they may do for you?? I mean, it irritates me like you could never imagine to take the time to give someone some advice, directions, information, a phone number, or whatever the case may be, only to have them ignore me and not bother to say a simple thank you. You know what that makes me think? It makes me think that you think you're better than me and that it's my job to go out of my way to provide you with infomation that you could have very well looked up yourself. Got dammit! Come on people! Work with me here and say thank you! You're killing me. I'm trying my damnest to be nice and be a more positive person, but you're making me resort to either not answering you when you text me a question, lie and tell you I have no idea, or just do like you do and ignore you. I really don't want to resort to being an idiot like you, but if push comes to shove, I will lead by your example and just ignore you so I am not forced out of my positive element and into your negative one.

I'm just saying...

Once again, if you have to question who I may be talking about, chances are, it's you. So take a moment to reevaluate how you respond (or not respond) to someone who is going out of their way to do something nice for you, only to have you ignore their act of kindness and appear unappreciative.

Karma

kar⋅ma  /ˈkɑrmə/
–noun
1. Hinduism, Buddhism. action, seen as bringing upon oneself inevitable results, good or bad, either in this life or in a reincarnation.

Do you believe in karma? Do you even stop to recognize when something good or bad is happening to you that maybe it's because of some nice or vengeful act you bestowed upon someone else? Think about it.

I am a firm believer in karma and therefore, I often think twice before I attempt to do or say something negative to someone for fear of something bad happening to me as a result. I think everyone should think this way before acting and maybe the world would be a happier place. Maybe there would be less racism, fewer angry people, no more grudge holding or attempts at getting revenge, closer families and more friendships than acquaintances. There would also be more trust in relationships and when things didn't work out, parting ways would be a lot less stressful and a lot less vindictive. We should all strive for good karma instead of bad.

It's time for a change and what better way to start than by reevaluating our own actions and making an effort to change any actions that may not be considered acceptable to others so that good karma can come our way.

Wino's Anonymous

My sister and I were recently told that we need to go to W. A. meetings (Wino's Anonymous) because we love wine so much. Well, we decided to admit to our problem and do something about it, so we currently have daily meetings at an undisclosed location to sample different wines that may not be good for us.

The main problem we have is other people having a problem with us drinking wine. We don't see anything wrong with this and surely don't think it's a problem because our main objective is to drink lots of wine in order to filter out the wines we don't like so we know what to give up when we attend our meetings. How else can we find out which wines are nasty if we don't taste them all?

So, if you love wine and feel you have a problem finding out which wines you need to stop drinking, join us for our Wino's Anonymous meetings for help. We promise to keep your addiction a secret and we will never, ever reveal which wines you dislike. We honor and respect our code of ethics.

Truce or Surrender?

When do you realize enough is enough and raise the white flag? Is that even an option? Do you continue to fight for what you believe in when you feel you're right, or do you just say to hell with it because you're tired of pleading your case and you just don't want to deal with that person any longer? Any of these questions sound familiar to you? Is this a truce or are you surrendering to the bullshit and throwing in the towel?

They sound all too familiar to me. I know most of you reading my blog might think "WOW, this idiot has a lot of drama in her life!", but that's not true. I USED to have a lot of drama in my life, but with growth and maturity, came weeding out the negativity while embracing all things positive.

Just today, I had someone (who shall remain nameless for now) email me and then call me a few hours later about the email where he or she thought I wasn't being very "friendly". I have three letters for statements like this...W T F??? Where is it written in stone that I have to be "friendly" to everyone I meet? I must have missed that portion of the handbook, so if you have a copy, by all means, please highlight that part and send me a copy.

Family Values

Are you close to your immediate family or are you closer to your spouse's family or your friend's family?

I ask this because this tends to be an issue with most families these days. We all know jealousy and even hatred exists everyday, but do those traits exist within your household or family? Jealousy is a strong trait and hatred is even stronger, but they both exist daily and within every relationship around the world. Personally, I am not a fan of using the word "hate" because it is such a strong word and I do not believe in using it against living beings, but that does not mean it is a word that does not exist in everyday vocabulary.

Some of my friends and family have gotten married or adopted other friends and families and they have expressed how difficult it is to spend time with both families, but they try to come to some sort of agreement to where they alternate holidays in order to spend time with both families equally. For instance, my best friend and her husband may spend Christmas here in Houston one year with her family and then the next year they go to Dallas to spend Christmas with his family. They alternate holidays like this all year. I look at them and ask myself is this something I would be willing to do? I guess it would depend on how close I am with my family and how close I am with my man's family. I have been known to be a house hopper, where I visit several friend's houses during the holidays and although I've gotten used to that and my friends have probably gotten used to that, would they be okay with me changing things up if I got married and had other obligations?

I said all of this to say that some of my family members have new families and have resorted to spending their entire holiday season with their new family instead of their birth family. Does this mean they are right or wrong? It doesn't bother me because I totally understand that everyone meets new people along the way, besides, I have tons of friends I try to visit during the holidays to do something different from the norm, but it bothers some of my family members. I guess that's where the jealousy and hatred comes into play. Are these family members jealous that the other family members have a new family or are they just mad that there are other options? Should they be understanding or should both parties realize that changes will occur and things won't always be the same?

What do you think or suggest?