So, I decided to go on a month long hiatus from Facebook, Twitter, texting and emailing for non-business reasons and I have a lot of supporters. That makes me feel good, but at the same time, I have people not respecting my wishes. Why is there always a few people who choose to not support you? Answer...haters come in droves. Not everyone wants to see you succeed or do something positive in your life. As sad as it may seem, it's very true.
Just today, I was talking with my sister about friendship and she said she hopes my friends realize how great of a friend I am; when I told her I hope so too, but I actually think she's one of the main ones who actually KNOW what a great friend I am. She said that's a sad truth, but I may be right. I told her I know I'm right, simply because of the shit I've been through. Not everyone wants to support you because some people are self-centered and as usual, misery loves company....
Take this past weekend for instance...My birthday was Saturday and a lot of people remembered and told me happy birthday, but there are those who knew and remembered, but chose not to say a word. Why? Because misery loves company. They saw so many people telling me happy birthday via Facebook and felt the need to say nothing. I won't lose any sleep over it. I still turned 37 and will turn 38 in another 361 days without them, so I just smile and keep on moving.
With that said, I just want to say thank you to all those who support me and all of my decisions, whether you agree with them or not. A hiatus is good to do, to spend time with yourself, so if you've never considered it, I think you should. I love not being obligated to anyone or anything and just going with the flow and saying yes to things I really want to say yes to.
I'm just saying.
Showing posts with label Positive Inspiration. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Positive Inspiration. Show all posts
Thursday, June 11, 2009
Saturday, May 23, 2009
Associates
Should we be concerned about someone we consider a friend when that person is doing nothing but trying to hold us back from accomplishing our goals?
By all means! That person isn't a friend and shouldn't be called a friend. We use that word too loosely and it always comes back to haunt us. Friends will be there no matter what and an associate will always try to make you be there for them when you're trying to make something happen in a positive way for yourself. Misery loves company. If we remember these simple things, there will be fewer accusations of "my best FRIEND stabbed me in the back". No boo, your associate stabbed you in the back because he/she wasn't your friend to begin with.
I have been in numerous situations where I called a man or a woman my friend; even my best friend, only to get hurt in the end when that so called friend did something to hurt me in the end. We have to be more careful of who we call friends and an easy way to do that is by taking the time to consider those who have a positive influence in our lives and those who create the most animosity and cause us to be negative in the end.
A few years ago, I came to the realization that several people whom I loved to hang out with and party with daily, were corrupting my life (for lack of a more appropriate phrase) and when I decided to pray on it day and night, I was shown in more ways than one that it was time to let them go and focus on me. It wasn't easy, but it had to be done, so I got the courage to call them and not let my kindness be taken as a weakness any longer, and I let them go. After that, I felt refreshed and renewed and I got back in school, something that I was told by them was not for me at that time.
It was a messy situation, but in the end I realized that it's true that some people are in your life for a reason, others for a season, and very few for a lifetime. As much as I wanted those people to be in my life for a lifetime, I had to realize that we don't have control over that, so we need to accept the way things are presented to us and move on.
I have moved on since then, gotten my BFA and my MBA and if anyone asks me if I ever think about those "friends", I will proudly tell them yes, all the time. There's no shame in admitting when I miss someone or think about someone and I will admit it with the quickness, but do I think I messed up in letting them go? Not at all. Would I let another "friend" go whom I feel isn't right for my life and the direction I'm trying to go? Absolutely!
Don't hate, get like me. I'm just saying.
By all means! That person isn't a friend and shouldn't be called a friend. We use that word too loosely and it always comes back to haunt us. Friends will be there no matter what and an associate will always try to make you be there for them when you're trying to make something happen in a positive way for yourself. Misery loves company. If we remember these simple things, there will be fewer accusations of "my best FRIEND stabbed me in the back". No boo, your associate stabbed you in the back because he/she wasn't your friend to begin with.
I have been in numerous situations where I called a man or a woman my friend; even my best friend, only to get hurt in the end when that so called friend did something to hurt me in the end. We have to be more careful of who we call friends and an easy way to do that is by taking the time to consider those who have a positive influence in our lives and those who create the most animosity and cause us to be negative in the end.
A few years ago, I came to the realization that several people whom I loved to hang out with and party with daily, were corrupting my life (for lack of a more appropriate phrase) and when I decided to pray on it day and night, I was shown in more ways than one that it was time to let them go and focus on me. It wasn't easy, but it had to be done, so I got the courage to call them and not let my kindness be taken as a weakness any longer, and I let them go. After that, I felt refreshed and renewed and I got back in school, something that I was told by them was not for me at that time.
It was a messy situation, but in the end I realized that it's true that some people are in your life for a reason, others for a season, and very few for a lifetime. As much as I wanted those people to be in my life for a lifetime, I had to realize that we don't have control over that, so we need to accept the way things are presented to us and move on.
I have moved on since then, gotten my BFA and my MBA and if anyone asks me if I ever think about those "friends", I will proudly tell them yes, all the time. There's no shame in admitting when I miss someone or think about someone and I will admit it with the quickness, but do I think I messed up in letting them go? Not at all. Would I let another "friend" go whom I feel isn't right for my life and the direction I'm trying to go? Absolutely!
Don't hate, get like me. I'm just saying.
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