Inquisitive or Nosey

The question of the day is are you just inquisitive about certain things or are you flat out nosey?
Do you ask people things that you really don't understand and are curious to know the answer to or do you ask questions just to get into their business?

Like everything I blog about, this is a real situation that has happened to me at some point in time, so I'm posing this question to everyone else to see how you may have handled these situations. Also, I'm trying to find out if you are one of those people who just like to be in everyone else's business or if you are one of those inquisitive people?

Growing up, my mom would often ask me what does a certain friend of mine do for a living and my answer would most times be "I don't know." That would irritate the crap out of her because she said I never asked enough questions. My response to her would always be that asking a ton of questions may not come across as a good thing. It may come across as me being nosey and to this day, I still tell her she is just plain nosey and to stop asking me so many questions and to stay out of my business! LOL!

All jokes aside, I still have a problem with asking someone too many questions. I just don't want to seem like the nosey, gossip type. Therefore, I live by a rule that if you ask someone a question and they give you a short answer, that's all that person wants you to know, so you should not continue to ask them questions.

Do you agree or disagree? Are you nosey and can admit it or are you just inquisitive and can stop at one question regardless of the answer you are given? Inquiry minds want to know...

Simply Saying Thank You

Okay people, I posted a blog a while back about simple acts of gratitude and unfortunately not very many people took it seriously. When are we going to learn to simply say "thank you" to people for whatever they may do for you?? I mean, it irritates me like you could never imagine to take the time to give someone some advice, directions, information, a phone number, or whatever the case may be, only to have them ignore me and not bother to say a simple thank you. You know what that makes me think? It makes me think that you think you're better than me and that it's my job to go out of my way to provide you with infomation that you could have very well looked up yourself. Got dammit! Come on people! Work with me here and say thank you! You're killing me. I'm trying my damnest to be nice and be a more positive person, but you're making me resort to either not answering you when you text me a question, lie and tell you I have no idea, or just do like you do and ignore you. I really don't want to resort to being an idiot like you, but if push comes to shove, I will lead by your example and just ignore you so I am not forced out of my positive element and into your negative one.

I'm just saying...

Once again, if you have to question who I may be talking about, chances are, it's you. So take a moment to reevaluate how you respond (or not respond) to someone who is going out of their way to do something nice for you, only to have you ignore their act of kindness and appear unappreciative.

Splinters

It's 2009 and time for change. I have always been a stickler for change and don't adapt too well when things stay the same. So, one change I'm going to make for this year is to call my pet peeves splinters because they get under my skin just like a splinter.

To kick this year off, I have a splinter that is really deep under my skin and I can't seem to grasp, even with the most pointed pair of tweezers. That splinter is when I email someone and within that email, several questions are asked, only to have them respond back answering the very last question. Why do I have to number my questions in order to get a response to everything? I mean, this happens more often than not and it really aggravates me, so I'm putting it out there for those of you who do this. Now you know how much it irritates me and if you're reading this and don't know if you're one of those 99 out of 100 people, more than likely you are. It irritates me moreso when clients do it. How can you try to conduct business and ask your client a list of pertinent things regarding their design that they wanted yesterday, only to have them respond back with "Thanks!"?? WTH?? I asked you specific questions! That is not an answer!

Get it together for oh-nine people because we learned basics like this in elementary school. I guess most of you weren't paying attention.

Thanks,
Boss Lady

The Last Pet Peeve of 2008

Since it's almost the end of 2008, I will post one more pet peeve for the year because I'm sure I'll have a whole new list come 2009 since people tend to do things daily to get on my nerves...

Pet Peeve #999...People who pick up your cell phone when it rings and look at it to see who's calling before handing it to you. This pet peeve goes hand in hand with #999.1 and that one is people who pick up your cell phone when it rings and proceed to ANSWER IT because they know who the person is. WTF??

First of all, both of these are flat out rude, unethical and proves you have no home training. Respect other people's privacy! This particular thing happens to me quite often, so I have to resort to keeping my cell on silent, in my purse or strapped to my hip at all times. Leaving it laying around the room obviously invites others to think they have just cause to pick it up and invade your privacy. SMH...What's wrong with people? If someone's cell phone rings and it is obviously not yours, you simply tell that person their phone is ringing. If they tell you to look at it and let them know who's calling, fine, you have permission to look at it, but you should always, I repeat...ALWAYS wait for them to tell you what to do before you take matters into your own hands. Never, EVER pick up someone else's phone and look to see who is calling first. If they wanted everyone to know, they would have a phone that speaks out the name of the person calling.

Get it together people and stop being nosey! Damn!

Pet Peeves...The List Goes On....

You may have been wondering what my number one pet peeve is. Well, here it is...

Pet Peeve #1...People speaking incorrectly via text messaging or email. We learned early on in school on how to use words correctly, such as "you're" or "your", "their" or "they're" and even "write" or "right".

Come on people!!!!!!!! We learned this in grade school. This is one fast way to turn me off completely! If I meet a guy and he texts me "Your HOT!" you should see my face. I get so irritated and disgusted, I don't even bother texting him back.

I had a wonderful English teacher in school who taught me right away that if you question which word to use, talk it out. For example...

Lesson #1: break down "You're HOT" (since you're is a contraction), to both words..."you" and "are". Now, say the sentence as 3 words instead of 2 and you get "You are HOT!". Simple right? I would think so, but I have yet to experience that.

Lesson #2: the words "your" and "their" are possessive, so saying "Your HOT" or "Their here" makes absolutely NO sense whatsoever! Refer to lesson #1 and learn how to break the word down into two words so you tell a hot chick "You are HOT" instead of appearing like you left a word out of the statement. The correct way to use "Your" would be to say "Your ass is HOT!" and the correct way to use the word "Their" would be to say "Their asses are HOT!" Using "their" when you should be using "they are" and vice versa, simply makes you look like an idiot.

Got it? I sure as hell hope so.

Let's move on to the words "write" and "right". Now, in no way are these two words spelled similar, so there should be no reason for anyone to confuse the two. However, I have met my share of idiots who insist on using the word "write" when they mean or should know to use the word "right". How can that happen you ask? I would have never wondered that myself until it happened. Here's an example...."You know something, your write." Now, what the hell is wrong with that sentence??? In case you're one of the idiots I've been writing about, let me tell you. Not only is the word "write" incorrect, but the word "your" is used incorrectly as well. The sentence should read "You know something, you're right." OR "You know something, you are right." (break the contraction down into both words to ensure you use it correctly)

I'm going to need everyone out there to get it together if you want to impress that man or woman you intend to be your husband or wife one day. I can't speak for everyone out there, but as for myself, I can't get past the grammar ignorance. I also read a book by Eric Jerome Dickey recently called Pleasure, that I swore up and down was written about me at first because the main character in the book had a pet peeve just like this one. She was trying to get rid of a guy she was dating who kept sending her text messages with incorrect grammar and all I could do was laugh and think to myself that I'm glad I'm not the only one who notices this and can't stand it! Pick up a dictionary or thesauras or simply pay attention in school.

That's all for now...
Gemini aka Boss Lady

Even More Pet Peeves...

Pet Peeve #10...You text or email someone to explain why you couldn't make it to their birthday celebration because you were sick or whatever the reason was, only to have them not respond. This really irritates the crap out of me because no one is really owed an explanation as to why you couldn't make it somewhere, but because it is rude to not respond at all, I make an effort to let that person know I didn't just blow them off. Aside from that, it is a simple act of gratitude to reply back to that person and say "I understand" or "I hope you feel better". Not responding lets that other person see just how selfish and unappreciative you really are! Not to mention, the person who invited you to their party never, EVER shows up to support for your parties, yet you still make every effort to attend their functions. WTH???

I was raised by the golden rule...do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Well, I've lived by that rule, only to have some people piss on me, so from now on, I'm going to start doing unto others as they do to me. I'll feel much better in the morning.

P.S. If you are reading this and wondering if this is about you....chances are, it is and you should take a moment to realize just how selfish and unappreciative you really appear to others.

Pet Peeves!

We all have pet peeves and most of the time, they tend to surface more often than we would care for them to. At any rate, here are a few of my top peeves...

Pet Peeve #137... Emailing someone asking more than one question, only to have them respond to the last thing you asked. You have to email them back either in separate emails asking the other questions, one at a time, or you have to number them so they see them in a list format. READ people!! And if you have to, when you hit reply, scroll down to re-read each question so you can respond to everything. This saves time on both of our ends. This irritates the crap out of me!

Pet Peeve #138... Giving someone a gift or sending them a congratulatory/happy birthday message whether via email or text, only to have them not respond with a "thank you". That shows you're unnappreciative and makes me not want to do anything for you EVER again. This also irritates the CRAP out of me, not to mention it's very rude!

Pet Peeve #139... I text someone and they CALL me back. Helloooooooooo, I'm texting because either A) I can't talk at the time or B) I'd rather not talk to you at the time. Please don't call someone back if they text you unless they text you asking that you call them back. Learn some texting courtesy people.

Pet Peeve #140... Sending forwarded text messages at odd hours of the morning, especially before 6 a.m. I don't know about you, but the only calls/texts I want to receive at that hour are emergencies. My heart races when I hear my phone vibrating or ringing at 4 a.m. and I immediately think OMG what has happened?? Only to see a fowarded joke on the screen. PISSES ME OFF BEYOND MEANS!

That's all for now, but don't worry, I'll be posting more randomly because I have plenty! :-) Have a nice day.