Blogging from the BlackBerry

Blogging from the BlackBerry is NOT easy, but I'm glad it's an option. It allows me to blog on the go without having to take the time to turn on my computer, find a wifi connection and let the world know what's on my mind. Thank God for technology!

I am currently trying to recup from a wedding this past weekend, along with full weekends every single weekend since June. I swear this has been the busiest year ever and I am not very enthused. Starting next year, I will be saying no to a lot of events, no matter what they are. So, if you are reading this and are a close friend, don't even bother inviting me. You have your answer already. 2010 is all about "Me Time"!!!

Thanks,
Boss Lady, MBA
;)

Ms. MBA

I recently had my commencement ceremony for my graduate degree and I must say I am still on cloud 9! The ceremony was awesome and every moment preparing up to the moment that I walked from behind the curtain to be seen by tons of friends, family, faculty and even strangers was exhilarating. I loved every minute of it and I want to thank everyone who came out to support me.

Check out a few photos from my special day...

In Memory of The King of Pop

Words cannot begin to express how shocked I was when I heard the news the Legendary Michael J. Jackson had passed away at the young age of 50. I am still saddened by this news, 5 days later. Who knows if we will ever get over this shocking event because he was such an icon to the entire world, but life must go on. Fortunately, I had one opportunity to see him perform live in concert at the Summit in Houston back in the mid 1980's. Not many can say the same. The children of today aren't as fortunate as those of us over 30 are because we had the chance to experience Michael in all of his stages of life. My prayers go out to his family and to all those who loved him dearly.

Rest in peace Michael! 1958-2009

Hiatus

So, I decided to go on a month long hiatus from Facebook, Twitter, texting and emailing for non-business reasons and I have a lot of supporters. That makes me feel good, but at the same time, I have people not respecting my wishes. Why is there always a few people who choose to not support you? Answer...haters come in droves. Not everyone wants to see you succeed or do something positive in your life. As sad as it may seem, it's very true.

Just today, I was talking with my sister about friendship and she said she hopes my friends realize how great of a friend I am; when I told her I hope so too, but I actually think she's one of the main ones who actually KNOW what a great friend I am. She said that's a sad truth, but I may be right. I told her I know I'm right, simply because of the shit I've been through. Not everyone wants to support you because some people are self-centered and as usual, misery loves company....

Take this past weekend for instance...My birthday was Saturday and a lot of people remembered and told me happy birthday, but there are those who knew and remembered, but chose not to say a word. Why? Because misery loves company. They saw so many people telling me happy birthday via Facebook and felt the need to say nothing. I won't lose any sleep over it. I still turned 37 and will turn 38 in another 361 days without them, so I just smile and keep on moving.

With that said, I just want to say thank you to all those who support me and all of my decisions, whether you agree with them or not. A hiatus is good to do, to spend time with yourself, so if you've never considered it, I think you should. I love not being obligated to anyone or anything and just going with the flow and saying yes to things I really want to say yes to.

I'm just saying.

Too Nice?

Is there such a thing as being too nice? Yes there is and I'm a victim of it.

My kindness is often taken for granted simply because I have a big heart and tell everyone yes most of the time that they get spoiled. Just like when you tell a kid yes all the time then tell them no that one time and they get mad, that's how most of the people I know react when I say no.

So, how do I fix this problem? The way I see it, I have two choices...I can either stop saying yes all the time and being so available when they ask me a question or need something from me, or I can just be a bitch and flat out say no. If you were me, which would you chose?

I'm just tired of being Super Woman to everyone else other than myself. It's time I take some time for myself and do me and not worry about the wants and needs of everyone else because when I need them, guess what? They don't hesitate to tell me no and I bet they don't feel bad about it either. So why do I let it bother me so much when I know I let someone down or hurt their feelings? Probably because I have such a big heart, but that's all about to change.

I'm fed up with everyone calling on me for every damn thing before they call upon someone else. I'm also fed up with people being lazy and not looking for something, but instead calling me to send it to them because they know I have it and know more than likely I'll send it and not say no. Just like you can wear welcome out, you can wear a friendship out by taking someone's kindness for granted. Especially mine.

The madness stops today.

Associates

Should we be concerned about someone we consider a friend when that person is doing nothing but trying to hold us back from accomplishing our goals?

By all means! That person isn't a friend and shouldn't be called a friend. We use that word too loosely and it always comes back to haunt us. Friends will be there no matter what and an associate will always try to make you be there for them when you're trying to make something happen in a positive way for yourself. Misery loves company. If we remember these simple things, there will be fewer accusations of "my best FRIEND stabbed me in the back". No boo, your associate stabbed you in the back because he/she wasn't your friend to begin with.

I have been in numerous situations where I called a man or a woman my friend; even my best friend, only to get hurt in the end when that so called friend did something to hurt me in the end. We have to be more careful of who we call friends and an easy way to do that is by taking the time to consider those who have a positive influence in our lives and those who create the most animosity and cause us to be negative in the end.

A few years ago, I came to the realization that several people whom I loved to hang out with and party with daily, were corrupting my life (for lack of a more appropriate phrase) and when I decided to pray on it day and night, I was shown in more ways than one that it was time to let them go and focus on me. It wasn't easy, but it had to be done, so I got the courage to call them and not let my kindness be taken as a weakness any longer, and I let them go. After that, I felt refreshed and renewed and I got back in school, something that I was told by them was not for me at that time.

It was a messy situation, but in the end I realized that it's true that some people are in your life for a reason, others for a season, and very few for a lifetime. As much as I wanted those people to be in my life for a lifetime, I had to realize that we don't have control over that, so we need to accept the way things are presented to us and move on.

I have moved on since then, gotten my BFA and my MBA and if anyone asks me if I ever think about those "friends", I will proudly tell them yes, all the time. There's no shame in admitting when I miss someone or think about someone and I will admit it with the quickness, but do I think I messed up in letting them go? Not at all. Would I let another "friend" go whom I feel isn't right for my life and the direction I'm trying to go? Absolutely!

Don't hate, get like me. I'm just saying.

More Splinters

Okay...So most of you who have been reading my blog know that I have posted a few that were titled Pet Peeves and then I changed the name to Splinters because I wanted to be different, plus splinters better describes how these things can be. They get under your skin just enough to irritate you like splinters.

My newest splinter is people who only respond to one question in an email, text, tweet, etc. For example, let's say I send an email to a friend of mine and ask these questions: How are you? How's the family? I haven't seen you in a while, how's the new job coming? I heard you had a baby, how old is he/she now? and their response is "He's 2 years old. How are you doing?"

WTF?? Did you NOT see my other questions? Did I just waste my time typing for my health? People, you need to answer ALL questions because trust me, if it irritates me, it irritates someone else.

Get it together people and READ every single question and RESPOND to every single question. Geesh!

The Twitter Fad

So, everyone's into this new fad of "tweeting" and I must admit I am addicted as well...

First it was MySpace, then Facebook and now Twitter. What exactly is Twitter and how does it work is what I get asked most often, as if I created the site. For those of you who don't know what it is or those of you who signed up for a page without reading what it's about on their home page, here is the dummed down explanation for you.

Twitter is basically a networking site like Facebook and MySpace, except it's easier to work because you only do two things...post short 140 character messages letting your friends and followers know what you're doing, what's on your mind or just any random jargon you feel free to say at the moment and you can reply to their messages. It's that simple. So as you can see, there is no detailed explanation for those of you who ask "How does this work?" You don't have to figure anything out like on Facebook or MySpace. You just send a tweet and keep moving. You can even download mobile applications to your phone and tweet even faster...and before you ask how to do that or what application you need for your phone, Google it like I did! I Googled "Twitter mobile download for BlackBerry" and got several links telling me about TwitterBerry, so Google it for your particular phone and have fun!

If you decide to get on Twitter, look for me and follow me. My ID is SEKCEE66. Bye for now, my future Tweeps and I hope to see you following me soon...

Are You Gonna Go My Way?

Watch this video for a good laugh!

Positive Motivation!

I recently attended a seminar that was very positive. I immediately became motivated and told myself that each and every day I would begin the day by thanking God and sending a positive, inspiring message to my friends via text message, email, facebook or twitter.

I encourage everyone out there to do the same. Positive thinking leads to positive speaking which leads to positive outcomes! If you believe it, you can achieve it!

THINK POSITIVE PEOPLE! My new motto is...I AM THE MOST POSITIVE PERSON I KNOW AND I AM UNSTOPPABLE!

...Enough Said!

Christianity

What exactly constitutes a Christian?

Is it someone who attends church all the time and constantly preaches the Word of the Lord, yet has so much hatred in their hearts, they do not know how to forgive and forget when the Bible stresses forgiveness? Or is it someone who believes in God and follows His word, yet doesn't feel the need to preach to others, but that person is a forgiving person who doesn't hold grudges and can move forward? Which one are you? Which one is the correct version of a Christian?

As usual, this blog stems from a real situation in my life. My brother's stupid baby mama is one of the most evil and vindictive persons I have ever met, yet she claims she is a Christian. I beg to differ.

This girl is so evil and vindictive, I have never seen anyone like her. She is the devil in disguise. How can anyone be so cold as to not allow the father of their child or anyone else in that family to talk to or visit the child? My brother loves his first child to death and it kills him that he cannot be an active part of her life. Because he chose not to be with the mother, she has taken things to new levels where she doesn't answer any of his calls or mine, hangs up in our faces and has resorted to telling my brother he will never see his daughter again. When confronted about the situation and we tell her that it's been 7 years and she needs to get over my brother, she denies that she still wants him, but her actions speak differently. It's really sad and the past few days were really difficult for me as I was in San Antonio where she lives and I called the mother's house to try and talk to or see my niece, but was denied that opportunity. The mother has tried to hide by changing her phone numbers several times, but little does she know that with technology these days, anyone can be found and we did just that...found her. I called and as soon as she recognized my voice, she hung up. She didn't even bother to find out what I wanted, nor did she care. She coldly hung up in my face then didn't answer any of my calls after that. I was furious and almost drove to her house to let her see I found out where she lives although she thinks no one knows, but I decided to pray instead.

With that being said, I ask again...what exactly constitutes calling yourself a Christian? Can someone please tell me so I am no longer confused?

MBA

It's official! I have finished my MBA program with honors and I am elated! Although it still feels surreal, I am excited to be the first person in my immediate family to obtain a master's degree. Everyone is super excited for me, but not as excited as I am! Now I must decide what to do with all of my free time of not having to write papers.

Rochelle D. Scott, MBA <--- WOW! That sure does have a nice ring to it and looks great as my new signature.

Career Student

Some of my friends and family tease me, saying I'm a career student or a professional student. I'll take that. It's hard to believe that just 5 years ago, I hadn't finished my undergrad degree from back in the day and that in just a couple of weeks, I will have my MBA. I am super excited! I owe my decision to go back to school to a couple of people; my best friend and her husband. They were extremely supportive in me going back to school and now that I have gone back, I can't seem to stop. I used to think school was horrible and I often said I would never go back. Well, my thoughts have changed and I am glad I made the decision to go back just a few short years ago.

I will have 3 degrees to my name in a few weeks and I am even contemplating going for a second master's in the fall of this year. I am here to tell anyone who is currently in school and not looking to go to college that it may not be for you now, but years from now, if you decide to go back to pursue a long awaited degree, you are bound to learn a lot more and pay attention more as an adult than as a teenager. I will graduate Magna Cum Laude and back in high school, I barely graduated Thank You Laude!

Thanks Tree and Errol for instilling in me that getting my degree should be something I do for myself first and for a job or anyone else second. Thank God for allowing me the opportunity to fulfill my dreams of earning my degree and for the opportunity to learn more than I thought I would ever learn in school. Hats off to everyone in school pursuing any degree they are pursuing. I wish you all the best!

Pissed

I'm mad as hell right now for numerous reasons. I might blog about those reasons tomorrow, but for now, just know it probably has to do with you if you're reading this. If you are reading this and don't know me, then it isn't about you. I'm just saying....

Haters

hate [heyt]

verb, hat-ed, hat-ing, noun

-verb (used with object)

1. to dislike intensely or passionately; feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward; detest: to hate the enemy; to hate bigotry.

Do we shake the haters off or entertain them by showing our envy towards them?

Do you show hatred towards someone you consider a friend just because that person has done something you have long awaited to do? Or do you congratulate them on their accomplishment because you are genuinely happy for them?  We all have a jealous side and that's normal, but allowing it to show is when the problem occurs. Let's all try a little harder to keep that jealousy buried within and keep smiling! 

I have a friend who is always smiling. She is always happy and I don't think I have ever seen her not smiling. Recently I was looking for an angry photo of her for a project I was working on and I honestly could not find one. I told her every single photo I have of her, whether it's a shot she posed for or a candid one where she was caught off guard, she is smiling. Those are the people we should have surrounding us daily....happy and positive people. Hatred is very negative and we should try hard to avoid negative situations and negative people. If you have someone in your life who is always complaining about something and always seems to have negative things to say about something or someone, turn that negative energy around by offering them something positive as a response. I guarantee they will either begin to agree with you and turn their attitude around or they will leave you alone because they see no matter what they say, you will not join them in their negativity. You know what they say...misery loves company. I don't know about you, but I'd rather have the company of the happy people around me daily. Life is too short to go around mad, complaining and hating on people on a regular basis.

I'm just saying.

Mardi Gras 2009

It's that time of year again when everyone parties hard for Mardi Gras, gets drunk, throws beads, women show their tits and no one has any regrets the next day. This year I'm not going to Mardi Gras, but that doesn't mean I won't celebrate in my own way.

My question to you women is...have you ever shown your tits for beads? If so, did you get the beads or did the guy just tease you to get you to show your goods?

Be safe out there and have a happy Mardi Gras 2009!!!

Kimisms

:)


Do you have a friend who types the wrong word(s) all the time? Does that irritate you or do you turn it around to make fun of them and include those words in your everyday email vocabulary?


I have a friend who I am fortunate enough to have in my life to provide us with these "kimisms" daily. I have a ton of pet peeves or "splinters" as I like to call them now, so I am very fortunate to have someone like her to provide laughter and make me turn those pet peeves into a comedic situation. Here is a list of "kimisms" to help you translate your emails or text messages just in case you need them:


Wonder = wonderful
Prays = prayers
Excite = excited
Brunch = bunch
Minds = mines
To = too
Know = now
Angel = angel
Want = won't

Frustrated

I'll keep this short and sweet. I am really frustrated for several reasons. One main reason is because I get sick and tired of not feeling like I can be myself. I feel I have to pretend to be someone I'm not sometimes, for one reason or another. One thing I am going to really work on from this day forth is focusing on pleasing myself and worrying less and less about others. I waste too much time, energy and oxygen on trying to please others, trying to figure out why they do the things they do or why they don't do things a certain way and personally, I'm sick of it and I'm sick and tired of being frustrated or irritated by these things daily. So, if you all don't give a damn, why should I? I'm just saying.

Like I've said before and will continue to say....If you think what I'm saying is about you, chances are, it probably is.

Peace....zRo

Inquisitive or Nosey

The question of the day is are you just inquisitive about certain things or are you flat out nosey?
Do you ask people things that you really don't understand and are curious to know the answer to or do you ask questions just to get into their business?

Like everything I blog about, this is a real situation that has happened to me at some point in time, so I'm posing this question to everyone else to see how you may have handled these situations. Also, I'm trying to find out if you are one of those people who just like to be in everyone else's business or if you are one of those inquisitive people?

Growing up, my mom would often ask me what does a certain friend of mine do for a living and my answer would most times be "I don't know." That would irritate the crap out of her because she said I never asked enough questions. My response to her would always be that asking a ton of questions may not come across as a good thing. It may come across as me being nosey and to this day, I still tell her she is just plain nosey and to stop asking me so many questions and to stay out of my business! LOL!

All jokes aside, I still have a problem with asking someone too many questions. I just don't want to seem like the nosey, gossip type. Therefore, I live by a rule that if you ask someone a question and they give you a short answer, that's all that person wants you to know, so you should not continue to ask them questions.

Do you agree or disagree? Are you nosey and can admit it or are you just inquisitive and can stop at one question regardless of the answer you are given? Inquiry minds want to know...