Christianity

What exactly constitutes a Christian?

Is it someone who attends church all the time and constantly preaches the Word of the Lord, yet has so much hatred in their hearts, they do not know how to forgive and forget when the Bible stresses forgiveness? Or is it someone who believes in God and follows His word, yet doesn't feel the need to preach to others, but that person is a forgiving person who doesn't hold grudges and can move forward? Which one are you? Which one is the correct version of a Christian?

As usual, this blog stems from a real situation in my life. My brother's stupid baby mama is one of the most evil and vindictive persons I have ever met, yet she claims she is a Christian. I beg to differ.

This girl is so evil and vindictive, I have never seen anyone like her. She is the devil in disguise. How can anyone be so cold as to not allow the father of their child or anyone else in that family to talk to or visit the child? My brother loves his first child to death and it kills him that he cannot be an active part of her life. Because he chose not to be with the mother, she has taken things to new levels where she doesn't answer any of his calls or mine, hangs up in our faces and has resorted to telling my brother he will never see his daughter again. When confronted about the situation and we tell her that it's been 7 years and she needs to get over my brother, she denies that she still wants him, but her actions speak differently. It's really sad and the past few days were really difficult for me as I was in San Antonio where she lives and I called the mother's house to try and talk to or see my niece, but was denied that opportunity. The mother has tried to hide by changing her phone numbers several times, but little does she know that with technology these days, anyone can be found and we did just that...found her. I called and as soon as she recognized my voice, she hung up. She didn't even bother to find out what I wanted, nor did she care. She coldly hung up in my face then didn't answer any of my calls after that. I was furious and almost drove to her house to let her see I found out where she lives although she thinks no one knows, but I decided to pray instead.

With that being said, I ask again...what exactly constitutes calling yourself a Christian? Can someone please tell me so I am no longer confused?

...Another Pet Peeve (as if you're surprised!)

One of my top pet peeves (it's not #1, but it's a close 2nd) is people spelling my name wrong. A few people have been told they have butchered my name and all I ask is that you please don't do it again, but others continue to add letters or omit letters at their own discretion. Please know this gets under my skin like a splinter! Now, I allow people to give me tons of nicknames and some of them I have grown to love, but when you misspell my birth name or choose to spell a childhood nickname of mine your own way, you are irritating me to no end. 

I am not trying to say I'm perfect by any means, but I make it a point to try to notice how someone spells their name so I don't make the same mistake that others make with my name. For the last time...Ro is NOT spelled with a "w" or an "e" on the end! If someone's name is Rowina, I can understand you adding a "w" to their shortened name, but if the person's name is Romelle or Rokeshia, why would you add a "w" or an "e" after "Ro" when it does not make any sense? *sigh* 

Get it together people and please stop making me post spelling and grammar lessons on my blog. I am not a teacher and have more important things to do than teach you how to shorten someone's name. WTF?? I'm just saying...

 

WTF??

So........

It's that time of year when everyone needs to buy someone a gift. Whether it is a gift for a relative, friend or coworker, we all dread having to go shopping to buy a gift for someone when we don't really know what that person wants or likes right?

Well, that's how I feel, even if you don't agree. I'd rather spend my money on myself. Not to sound like a selfish grinch or anything (for lack of a better choice of words), that's just the reality of it. Besides, you can ask someone all day long what do they really want for Christmas and they won't tell you the truth. I bet most of you don't realize how many people may actually talk behind your back about how horrible the gift was that you bought them. Is that an act of being unappreciative? Certainly, and you guessed it...I CAN'T STAND THAT!!

I said all of this to bring up a situation that occured today. A friend of mine asked a group of us for gift ideas for her secret santa and everything we suggested wasn't good enough. So after about 10 ideas, she said thanks anyway, but I didn't get the answer I was looking for. Now, correct me if I'm wrong, but if you didn't get the answer you're looking for, that means you already knew the answer, right? So why are you asking other people for their suggestions? That's just my take on it...I'm just saying.