He Told Me He Loved Me...

He Told Me He Loved Me...

He told me he loved me.
Then he told me I was a whore.
He constantly berated me.
and even told me I was a sore...
loser that is...
Until I gave him head...
Then it was all good;
Until he bashed my head...

IN

After that...

I tried to console HIM,
I believed it was my fault;
I told him he was the best I'd ever had,
so a ring for me he bought...
Then I heard...FUCK YOU BITCH!
and the truth came out instead,
That I truly liked him, but somehow I knew...

I could end up dead.

-Rochelle aka Gemini

Opposites Attract....or Do They?

I have heard all my life that opposites attract, but early on, I was never one to understand that saying because I never got along with anyone I felt was opposite me. It wasn't until I got older, maybe in my late 20's when I completely understood it, but didn't agree.

I have always been a person with standards, requirements, wants, or whatever you want to call them, but I have always believed that a person shouldn't settle for less when they know what they want.

That being said, let's fastforward to the present time and how my beliefs have changed drastically from what I believed in my 20's and how they quickly reverted back to those beliefs within a month or so. It doesn't take long....

Anyway, I reconnected with this guy from years ago that I never gave a chance to, mainly because he was shorter than me and I have had a strict rule about never dating men shorter than me (unless it's Prince, if I should ever be so fortunate to meet that man!). I've also had rules about never dating men who have been married, have kids, have gold teeth (or missing teeth for that matter), jheri curls, etc. The list goes on, but as you can see a few of the things on this list can be altered as you grow older and you realize that the chances of you meeting a man your age who has never been married or has children may be slim to none. I can deal with that now, but the gold teeth/missing teeth/jheri curl...no can do. Back to my point...I've adjusted some of my "standards" and one of them was dating a man shorter than me other than Prince because I believe that you can pass up your blessings if you're too picky.

Well, this guy made me comfortable from day one, probably because we have known each other for years and he made me smile constantly. I was on cloud nine daily and all my friends could see it. My closest friends knew what was going on while others wondered what was different about me. To make a long story short, I finally believed opposites could attract because not only was he shorter than me, but he has a child and has a bad boy personality; all three characteristics I never thought I'd be attracted to.

BUT, before I tell you we have been happily ever after, let me say that he showed his true thug, jackass, disrespectful, non compassionate, deadbeat dad ass to me, forcing me to revert back to my "standards". So, with that being said...I STILL don't believe opposites attract!

-Gemini

More Alter Ego Photos...

...Derek Blanks, I'm riding your coat tails.

Missing In Action

Wow! I just realized I haven't posted a blog post in ages...

I'm back though, refreshed and ready to take on the world! So, what has been up with Ms. Gemini lately, you ask? Well, for starters, I've been working hard on my design work and trying to perfect this photography thing. Aside from that, I tried getting back into the dating game and the working thing, but that didn't work out too well, so I decided to take a back seat and start over. Now I'm still doing the design and photography thing because that's my destiny, but I've decided to focus on something new as far as the world of dating goes...

I took some time to get to know the real "me" and realize that I cannot continue to be the selfish person I've been in certain areas, so instead, I decided it was time to get to know the real Gemini I am and say "FUCK IT" you can change whatever you want to change...and not care what the next person says or thinks.

So, with that being said...I present to you the new and improved Gemini!!!

Christmas 2009

This Christmas was very special to me. Not only was it one of the best and most memorable Holidays ever, it was spent with family and friends whom I love with all my heart. I can only hope that everyone else had as great of a holiday as I had. To my baby brother Brian and his wife (my sissy Michelle), I want to say thank you so much for having dinner at your house and for letting us share your anniversary with you. I love you both so much! Big hugs and kisses! See you in a week, to bring in 2010!

Alter Ego

Since Derek Blanks appeared on The Real Housewives of Atlanta with his wonderful alter ego photos, it seems everyone has gotten the itch to create some similar, including myself. Since I'm a graphic designer and up and coming photographer, I decided to give it a try myself. Here are a couple of my attempts. I think they're pretty good, if I do say so myself.

Friend or Foe?

So.....I get another degree (MBA) and I can't get congratulations from a lot of people who claim to be my friend. Hmmmm...... I guess that you can really find out who your true "friends" are once you move on and above them, right?

I absolutely love how I find out the true colors of people, regardless when I find out because it helps me weed out the real friends from the fake ones.

Thanks faux friends!

Blogging from the BlackBerry

Blogging from the BlackBerry is NOT easy, but I'm glad it's an option. It allows me to blog on the go without having to take the time to turn on my computer, find a wifi connection and let the world know what's on my mind. Thank God for technology!

I am currently trying to recup from a wedding this past weekend, along with full weekends every single weekend since June. I swear this has been the busiest year ever and I am not very enthused. Starting next year, I will be saying no to a lot of events, no matter what they are. So, if you are reading this and are a close friend, don't even bother inviting me. You have your answer already. 2010 is all about "Me Time"!!!

Thanks,
Boss Lady, MBA
;)

Ms. MBA

I recently had my commencement ceremony for my graduate degree and I must say I am still on cloud 9! The ceremony was awesome and every moment preparing up to the moment that I walked from behind the curtain to be seen by tons of friends, family, faculty and even strangers was exhilarating. I loved every minute of it and I want to thank everyone who came out to support me.

Check out a few photos from my special day...

In Memory of The King of Pop

Words cannot begin to express how shocked I was when I heard the news the Legendary Michael J. Jackson had passed away at the young age of 50. I am still saddened by this news, 5 days later. Who knows if we will ever get over this shocking event because he was such an icon to the entire world, but life must go on. Fortunately, I had one opportunity to see him perform live in concert at the Summit in Houston back in the mid 1980's. Not many can say the same. The children of today aren't as fortunate as those of us over 30 are because we had the chance to experience Michael in all of his stages of life. My prayers go out to his family and to all those who loved him dearly.

Rest in peace Michael! 1958-2009

Hiatus

So, I decided to go on a month long hiatus from Facebook, Twitter, texting and emailing for non-business reasons and I have a lot of supporters. That makes me feel good, but at the same time, I have people not respecting my wishes. Why is there always a few people who choose to not support you? Answer...haters come in droves. Not everyone wants to see you succeed or do something positive in your life. As sad as it may seem, it's very true.

Just today, I was talking with my sister about friendship and she said she hopes my friends realize how great of a friend I am; when I told her I hope so too, but I actually think she's one of the main ones who actually KNOW what a great friend I am. She said that's a sad truth, but I may be right. I told her I know I'm right, simply because of the shit I've been through. Not everyone wants to support you because some people are self-centered and as usual, misery loves company....

Take this past weekend for instance...My birthday was Saturday and a lot of people remembered and told me happy birthday, but there are those who knew and remembered, but chose not to say a word. Why? Because misery loves company. They saw so many people telling me happy birthday via Facebook and felt the need to say nothing. I won't lose any sleep over it. I still turned 37 and will turn 38 in another 361 days without them, so I just smile and keep on moving.

With that said, I just want to say thank you to all those who support me and all of my decisions, whether you agree with them or not. A hiatus is good to do, to spend time with yourself, so if you've never considered it, I think you should. I love not being obligated to anyone or anything and just going with the flow and saying yes to things I really want to say yes to.

I'm just saying.

Too Nice?

Is there such a thing as being too nice? Yes there is and I'm a victim of it.

My kindness is often taken for granted simply because I have a big heart and tell everyone yes most of the time that they get spoiled. Just like when you tell a kid yes all the time then tell them no that one time and they get mad, that's how most of the people I know react when I say no.

So, how do I fix this problem? The way I see it, I have two choices...I can either stop saying yes all the time and being so available when they ask me a question or need something from me, or I can just be a bitch and flat out say no. If you were me, which would you chose?

I'm just tired of being Super Woman to everyone else other than myself. It's time I take some time for myself and do me and not worry about the wants and needs of everyone else because when I need them, guess what? They don't hesitate to tell me no and I bet they don't feel bad about it either. So why do I let it bother me so much when I know I let someone down or hurt their feelings? Probably because I have such a big heart, but that's all about to change.

I'm fed up with everyone calling on me for every damn thing before they call upon someone else. I'm also fed up with people being lazy and not looking for something, but instead calling me to send it to them because they know I have it and know more than likely I'll send it and not say no. Just like you can wear welcome out, you can wear a friendship out by taking someone's kindness for granted. Especially mine.

The madness stops today.

Associates

Should we be concerned about someone we consider a friend when that person is doing nothing but trying to hold us back from accomplishing our goals?

By all means! That person isn't a friend and shouldn't be called a friend. We use that word too loosely and it always comes back to haunt us. Friends will be there no matter what and an associate will always try to make you be there for them when you're trying to make something happen in a positive way for yourself. Misery loves company. If we remember these simple things, there will be fewer accusations of "my best FRIEND stabbed me in the back". No boo, your associate stabbed you in the back because he/she wasn't your friend to begin with.

I have been in numerous situations where I called a man or a woman my friend; even my best friend, only to get hurt in the end when that so called friend did something to hurt me in the end. We have to be more careful of who we call friends and an easy way to do that is by taking the time to consider those who have a positive influence in our lives and those who create the most animosity and cause us to be negative in the end.

A few years ago, I came to the realization that several people whom I loved to hang out with and party with daily, were corrupting my life (for lack of a more appropriate phrase) and when I decided to pray on it day and night, I was shown in more ways than one that it was time to let them go and focus on me. It wasn't easy, but it had to be done, so I got the courage to call them and not let my kindness be taken as a weakness any longer, and I let them go. After that, I felt refreshed and renewed and I got back in school, something that I was told by them was not for me at that time.

It was a messy situation, but in the end I realized that it's true that some people are in your life for a reason, others for a season, and very few for a lifetime. As much as I wanted those people to be in my life for a lifetime, I had to realize that we don't have control over that, so we need to accept the way things are presented to us and move on.

I have moved on since then, gotten my BFA and my MBA and if anyone asks me if I ever think about those "friends", I will proudly tell them yes, all the time. There's no shame in admitting when I miss someone or think about someone and I will admit it with the quickness, but do I think I messed up in letting them go? Not at all. Would I let another "friend" go whom I feel isn't right for my life and the direction I'm trying to go? Absolutely!

Don't hate, get like me. I'm just saying.

More Splinters

Okay...So most of you who have been reading my blog know that I have posted a few that were titled Pet Peeves and then I changed the name to Splinters because I wanted to be different, plus splinters better describes how these things can be. They get under your skin just enough to irritate you like splinters.

My newest splinter is people who only respond to one question in an email, text, tweet, etc. For example, let's say I send an email to a friend of mine and ask these questions: How are you? How's the family? I haven't seen you in a while, how's the new job coming? I heard you had a baby, how old is he/she now? and their response is "He's 2 years old. How are you doing?"

WTF?? Did you NOT see my other questions? Did I just waste my time typing for my health? People, you need to answer ALL questions because trust me, if it irritates me, it irritates someone else.

Get it together people and READ every single question and RESPOND to every single question. Geesh!

The Twitter Fad

So, everyone's into this new fad of "tweeting" and I must admit I am addicted as well...

First it was MySpace, then Facebook and now Twitter. What exactly is Twitter and how does it work is what I get asked most often, as if I created the site. For those of you who don't know what it is or those of you who signed up for a page without reading what it's about on their home page, here is the dummed down explanation for you.

Twitter is basically a networking site like Facebook and MySpace, except it's easier to work because you only do two things...post short 140 character messages letting your friends and followers know what you're doing, what's on your mind or just any random jargon you feel free to say at the moment and you can reply to their messages. It's that simple. So as you can see, there is no detailed explanation for those of you who ask "How does this work?" You don't have to figure anything out like on Facebook or MySpace. You just send a tweet and keep moving. You can even download mobile applications to your phone and tweet even faster...and before you ask how to do that or what application you need for your phone, Google it like I did! I Googled "Twitter mobile download for BlackBerry" and got several links telling me about TwitterBerry, so Google it for your particular phone and have fun!

If you decide to get on Twitter, look for me and follow me. My ID is SEKCEE66. Bye for now, my future Tweeps and I hope to see you following me soon...

Are You Gonna Go My Way?

Watch this video for a good laugh!

Positive Motivation!

I recently attended a seminar that was very positive. I immediately became motivated and told myself that each and every day I would begin the day by thanking God and sending a positive, inspiring message to my friends via text message, email, facebook or twitter.

I encourage everyone out there to do the same. Positive thinking leads to positive speaking which leads to positive outcomes! If you believe it, you can achieve it!

THINK POSITIVE PEOPLE! My new motto is...I AM THE MOST POSITIVE PERSON I KNOW AND I AM UNSTOPPABLE!

...Enough Said!

Christianity

What exactly constitutes a Christian?

Is it someone who attends church all the time and constantly preaches the Word of the Lord, yet has so much hatred in their hearts, they do not know how to forgive and forget when the Bible stresses forgiveness? Or is it someone who believes in God and follows His word, yet doesn't feel the need to preach to others, but that person is a forgiving person who doesn't hold grudges and can move forward? Which one are you? Which one is the correct version of a Christian?

As usual, this blog stems from a real situation in my life. My brother's stupid baby mama is one of the most evil and vindictive persons I have ever met, yet she claims she is a Christian. I beg to differ.

This girl is so evil and vindictive, I have never seen anyone like her. She is the devil in disguise. How can anyone be so cold as to not allow the father of their child or anyone else in that family to talk to or visit the child? My brother loves his first child to death and it kills him that he cannot be an active part of her life. Because he chose not to be with the mother, she has taken things to new levels where she doesn't answer any of his calls or mine, hangs up in our faces and has resorted to telling my brother he will never see his daughter again. When confronted about the situation and we tell her that it's been 7 years and she needs to get over my brother, she denies that she still wants him, but her actions speak differently. It's really sad and the past few days were really difficult for me as I was in San Antonio where she lives and I called the mother's house to try and talk to or see my niece, but was denied that opportunity. The mother has tried to hide by changing her phone numbers several times, but little does she know that with technology these days, anyone can be found and we did just that...found her. I called and as soon as she recognized my voice, she hung up. She didn't even bother to find out what I wanted, nor did she care. She coldly hung up in my face then didn't answer any of my calls after that. I was furious and almost drove to her house to let her see I found out where she lives although she thinks no one knows, but I decided to pray instead.

With that being said, I ask again...what exactly constitutes calling yourself a Christian? Can someone please tell me so I am no longer confused?

MBA

It's official! I have finished my MBA program with honors and I am elated! Although it still feels surreal, I am excited to be the first person in my immediate family to obtain a master's degree. Everyone is super excited for me, but not as excited as I am! Now I must decide what to do with all of my free time of not having to write papers.

Rochelle D. Scott, MBA <--- WOW! That sure does have a nice ring to it and looks great as my new signature.