Are you one to hold grudges? How long should you hold a grudge, if you hold one at all? What's the longest you've ever held a grudge?
I bet some of you could hold a record in the Guiness Book for holding a grudge. It's not healthy to hold anger inside like that and no one should hold a grudge against someone. It only makes you bitter and very negative. Back in the day, I used to be the queen of holding grudges and I could tell you the exact year, day and place when you pissed me off. Every grudge had a good reason and I remembered every single reason. Not only was I a grudge holder, I would take it upon myself to get revenge on those people. It wasn't until I grew up and got more mature that I realized it isn't my job to make someone pay for the evil acts they bestow upon others. No, that's not my job and it's not yours either. This year and moving forward in the future, everyone should take a vow to not hold grudges any longer.
When I went to my 10 year high school reunion, there were people there still mad from something that happened 10 or even 14 years prior. All I can say is it's a damn shame that people can be that petty after we've all grown up and are no longer teenagers. Holding grudges brings about hatred and life is too short to hold hatred in your heart for someone. A wise friend once made a comment about someone we know, saying "How is she going to try and sweep off my porch when her own porch is dusty and needs sweeping?" I loved it when she said it and I love it now. I can't wait to go to my 20 year reunion next year just to see if those same people, or even new ones, are still mad from something that happened over 20 years ago. I'll just shake my head and pray for them if they are...and you know who you are.
At any rate, if you think I'm still the same person I was when I was 17 or even 27, you're wrong. I've changed a great deal and I'm a much happier, forgiving, positive person, so if you are hesitant about speaking to me when you see me at the reunion, by all means don't be hesitant. I will embrace you with a big warm hug and we can celebrate what it is....a reunion!
Peace...
Tuesday, January 13, 2009
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Nice post! I do not hold grudges. I ain't got time to keep up with a laundry list of shyt people have done wrong to me (whether intentional or not). Plus, no one is perfect...we all make mistakes.
I DO, however, delete/erase people from my life as I have grown to realize that some people are just bad for you. If I see these people on the street, I will still smile and give a hug (if appropriate). I don't hate you...I just outgrew you and your madness. lol
The down side is that I am attached to a grudge holder. It is a very ugly personality trait and very hard to deal with a person like that. All I can do is pray for that person.
P.S. I think a guy that I grew up with has a beef with me but I have no clue what it is about. The entire time I knew him, we were simply classmates and friends. I recently joined an alumni site and I was excited to see him on there because I've known him longer than anyone else. I moved away from my hometown when I was 16 but these are the folks that I came up from elementary school with on through high school. I reached out to him a couple of times saying hello before I realized that he was ignoring me and had no intention on replying to me. I was shocked! I found out that he married one of our classmates who I also knew and sent him a heartfelt congratulations on their marriage. Still no reply. I noticed that he was responding to everyone else who posted a msg on his page though. Anywho....very weird but he ain't never got to worry about me saying hello again. lol Press on!
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